How do you get close to someone ? Open up! It may be risky, but it will be worth it in the end. I can actually vouch for it. So take a risk and share yourself with other people, because we’re all awesome.
You can’t put your finger on it.
You may not have anything in common.
On paper it might seem you’d never be friends.
But you just… “click.”
How does that work? Personally, I’m not one for flighty explanations like simpatico, serendipity, or soulmates.
In Click: The Magic of Instant Connections Ori Brafman and Rom Brafman (authors of the interesting book Sway: The Irresistable Pull of Irrational Behavior) explore these phenomena and give some solid insights.
They discuss a number of the more obvious causes of connection like proximity and similarity but what struck me most was their emphasis on vulnerability.
Allowing yourself to be vulnerable helps the other person to trust you, precisely because you are putting yourself at emotional, psychological, or physical risk. Other people tend to react by being more open and vulnerable themselves. The fact that…
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